Archive for April, 2010
Apr
30
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marriage retreat
People have the right to be happy, to treat each other honestly, to love and respect each other. Intensive marriage counseling retreats is really effective to help couples understand each other, to make children benefit from happy parents. Numerous challenges of modern day relationships are making marriage counseling retreats a must. Usually, the retreat means an opportunity to discuss what you consider as problem in your relationship. Some therapists include in their session a discussion about the personal backgrounds and your history as married person.
Counselors need also to understand your feelings; they need to find how to enhance your skills to resolve your marriage problems, improving your communication skills too. Marriage counseling retreats is also a chance to learn how to build through increased tolerance your marriage happiness. Your personal happiness is connected to your marriage. You will find how to resolve your non-communication problems, how to chance your attitude and self defeating actions.
How to build a healthy and happy family
Building better communication skills is the key of your successful relationship; usually each partner sees the marriage problems in a different way. Marriage counseling retreats can help you heal after bad experiences, such as lack of trust or infidelity. For these earth- shaking experiences, leading usually to a divorce, there are powerful tools. Therapists can help you to rebuild trust and love within the marriage. Motivation on the part of both partners is necessary; the marital counselor can help you move forward in your marriage. Marriage counseling retreats can help you to survive infidelity, even if it is really hard to find the options to stay together.
Counselors will always try to maintain the respect and trust in your relationship, bringing hope for the future, for the rest of your life. Dealing with the issues in a harmful and successful way is a science and an art. For many people this comes in a natural manner, for other people, this science and art must be learned. Committed marriage counseling retreats will bring more caring and love into your family; it is necessary to find a counselor to teach the skills of good communication; truth is the goal and getting to the truth in a loving and carrying manner is the best skill you can have.
No matter how difficult this seems to be, you will learn how to find how to balance the need to be the “charming prince” for your partner and the need to be an individual.
Helen Leman
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/amazing-marriage-counseling-retreats-for-enhancing-your-relationship-131916.html
Apr
30
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marriage infidelity
You wake up one day and your marriage is shattered because your husband just dropped the nuclear, infidelity bomb on you! Turns out he’s been having an affair for months. You knew that your relationship wasn’t exactly a magical one, but you never expected him to cheat on you! And, what complicates the painful emotional crisis even further is the fact that he won’t stop his behavior, nor does he want a divorce! Ironically, he claims that he still loves you! Your emotions are running rampant at this point, and you have been thrust into a painful state of confusion! Your thinking; how could he hurt and betray me like that? Why doesn’t he want a divorce? How could he still love me? Is there still hope for our marriage? What should I do?
Well, the first thing you should do is step back from the situation, remove your self, and take a few deep breaths! The worst thing you can do is allow your emotions to drive your actions because when you do it always ends disastrously! Yes, he cheated on you! But, unless you want to pull the plug on your relationship or get a divorce, you must realize that he’s in the driver’s seat right now! There is a way, though, to remove him from the driver’s seat! But before we get to that lets talk about…….
What you shouldn’t do!
One of the very worst things that you can do is beg your husband to stop cheating on you, and continue to tell him that you love him over and over. Remember, he strayed from the marriage for a reason. And, acting from desperation will only prove that he did the right thing!
I know you want your husband to stop cheating on you, but you can’t force him to change! So, trying to change his behavior by treating him to romantic dinner dates, buying him lavish gifts, giving him flowers, offering romantic gestures, or kowtowing to his beckon call will only worsen the crisis! He strayed from the marriage because his emotional needs have gone unmet, and those needs are directly related to your self-esteem and confidence. Therefore, over rowing the boat will only confirm the fact that you are not very confident!
How to Save your Marriage!
Saving your marriage is really all about change isn’t it! If you could only get your partner to spend more time with you, work less often, be more understanding, more romantic, more intimate, and completely monogamous then you would have the perfect marriage! Wouldn’t you? You’ve probably tried to get him to change his behavior, but the harder you try the worse it seems to get! Doesn’t it? The more you plead and prod the more he continues his cheating behavior! Doesn’t he?
Just because your partner told you that it’s not his fault that he cheated, or that he blames the failing marriage on you, doesn’t mean that he can’t change! As a matter of fact, he already did change!
Think about it! In the beginning of your marriage your partner was the loving, caring, and understanding person that you’ve always wanted, but somewhere along the line your partner changed, didn’t he? Unfortunately, it wasn’t in a way that contributed positively to your relationship! Therefore, he did change, and it’s possible for him to change again!
You see, very few women realize that the secret to beating a cheating husband is not force or manipulation but rather attraction!!!!
But, when faced with the emotional betrayal of marriage infidelity, most women act out of desperation and inadvertently make the situation worse!
The key to stopping your cheating husband in his tracks is to get to the bottom of why he strayed in the first place. Once you uncover the unmet emotional needs that are at the root of his behavior, you can swiftly remove him from the driver’s seat! But, by approaching your marriage infidelity from the correct perspective you will accomplish much more than that. You can end his infidelity without even asking him to do so, and you can get him to fall hopelessly in love with you all over again!
For more information on how to Beat a Cheating Husband click on the link below……
http://www.visionquestlifecoaching.com/products2.html
Best wishes,
David Roppo
The Relationship Rehab Coach
David Roppo
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/marriage-infidelity-secrets-to-beating-a-cheating-husband-706617.html
Apr
30
Posted under
infidelity
Warning signs of infidelity can take many forms but if you know which signs to look for, it can make this difficult investigative journey a bit easier and definitely less expensive than hiring a private investigator. Infidelity can take many forms but usually begins as emotional infidelity and then progresses to sexual infidelity. A person’s gut instinct is usually right, but if you notice any of the below top 20 warning signs of infidelity, the likelihood of your partner cheating becomes even more so. If you discover infidelity, be prepared with a master plan of action. Surviving infidelity is just as difficult as the discovery so make sure that you have a master plan of action as to how you will cope if infidelity is discovered.
Watch for the following top 20 infidelity signs:
1. Cheating spouse spends more time away from home. The cheater needs to spend more time with his love interest so they must make up more excuses to be away such as working late, unexplained errands and increased travel.
2. Cheating husband or wife has noticeable cell phone habit changes. The cheater doesn’t answer their phone around you, turns the ringer off or takes longer than usual to call you back. If you have access to the cheating partner’s cell phone bill, check for calls made during odd times or of long duration.
3. Cheater’s clothes smell of alcohol, smoke, perfume or cologne.
4. Cheating spouse clears his computer history, utilizes free email accounts such as gmail, yahoo, hotmail, etc…, spends odd hours or unusually long times on the computer, changes screen display when you enter the room.
5. Cheater is not interested in sex as much.
6. Cheating husband or wife is unusually defensive or starts ignoring you.
7. Cheating spouse starts using cash more often.
8. Cheating spouse suddenly starts doing their own laundry or dropping off their own dry cleaning.
9. Cheating spouse has higher than usual car mileage.
10. Cheating husband or wife wants to travel and attend functions alone
11. Cheater has unexplained receipts in their car, wallet or desk.
12. Cheating spouse suddenly joins a gym, changes diet, gets a new hair style, starts visiting tanning salon, buys new clothes and/or lingerie.
13. They begin bathing or showering more frequently.
14. Cheating husband or wife asks about your schedule more often than usual.
15. Cheating spouse stops cuddling, kissing or holding hands.
16. Cheater may have new or unusual sexual requests.
17. Cheating spouse is always “too tired” for you.
18. The lose interest in domestic activities such as spending time with the kids, doing chores, etc… because they need this time for their affair.
19. Cheating husband or wife becomes unusually nice, brings you more gifts than usual and is more affectionate because of guilt feelings and time spent away.
20. Cheater starts finding fault in everything you do to justify the affair in their mind.
The discovery of infidelity does not necessarily mean the end of the relationship. Many couples have survived infidelity. If both partners still value the relationship and are willing to work at saving it through counseling, daily effort and increased communication, the chances of surviving infidelity become much greater.
Stephany Alexander
http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/top-20-warning-signs-of-infidelity-and-surviving-118212.html
Apr
30
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christian marriage counseling
If you talk to any couple who has been married over 20 years and gets along, the chances are they never went to see a marriage counselor. On the other hand if you talk to a couple that had just gotten a divorce chances are very good they had tried marriage counseling. I personally know of one couple who went to a marriage counselor and were successful. They went in the eighties and are still married and happy together. However, the marriage counselor they went to see was anything but orthodox. His approach was spiritual and not traditional western psychology.
My own experience as a mediator was western marriage counselors have a few things going against them. The biggest problem they have is they are not taught that man is a triune being. They believe man is limited to physical and psychological parts. They don’t recognize man is essentially spiritual. They also don’t recognize marriage is essentially a spiritual union and therefore spiritual laws are the most important for individuals to know.
I once asked two questions of a highly regarded (not by me) psychologist in San Diego. I asked her if she believed in God to which she replied, “God is an abstract thought.” The second question I asked her was if she believed in the law of karma (exemplified in the Judeo Christian doctrine as, “What you sow, so shall you reap”). She said, “Yes, it begins when you are five or six years old.” These two responses fly in the face of the spiritual reality that we are souls who have bodies and minds, and as souls we have been ’somewhere’ before we were born, and we go somewhere after we die. In other words western psychologists only recognize the span of our life as reality. Because of this containment the concept of infinity has no place in our individual life. It’s the concept of an infinite soul that dictates a spiritual meaning to life. It’s the concept of infinity that gives love its deepest meaning. If there is no infinity all of our understandings of love become meaningless because our personal experience of love has no boundary. Is our experience of love a delusion? Is love something that actually comes and goes? Or is love the only reality that appears elusive because of psychological confusion?
Here are 5 questions you can ask yourself to test your own experience:
- Am I happier when I give love or when I receive it?
- Am I able to manufacture love or does it originate someplace else?
- Can I trace my feelings of love back to their source?
- Do I prefer feelings of love over other feelings?
- Have I ever experienced a stronger feeling than love?
Love is proof of spirituality. It cannot be seen, heard or examined in a test tube. Yet we know no greater experience than that of love. Love has no boundaries other than those we impose upon it. When we affix our mind to love instead of what is fair we feel indescribable joy, the very nature of love, the very nature of god. We are meant to love our spouse with reckless abandon. If you learn how to do so you will have the happiest marriage in the world. Don’t forget to tell your best friend, the person you want to love with all of your heart, “I love you.”
Paul Friedman
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/marriage-counseling-does-it-it-work-5-questions-you-should-ask-716893.html
Apr
30
Posted under
marriage retreat
A commercial for our Marriage Retreat.
With Marty Kaiser, Shiela Kaiser, Roy Shrum and Teresa Shrum.
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Apr
30
Posted under
marriage retreat
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With Marty Kaiser, Shiela Kaiser, Roy Shrum and Teresa Shrum.
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Apr
30
Posted under
infidelity
http://i.ytimg.com/vi/ek2sXJXqvZQ/2.jpg” align=”left”/>Infidelity by TREY SONGZ – “Anticipation” with Lyrics:
For more Trey news go to http://www.treysongz.com/
(Intro)
Verse 1
You love me like
Words can’t explain
For me to feel the same
Is all you wanna gain
You never claim
That the dollars made me change
But the models givin’ brain
Guess that could f*ck with your brain
Hurt your heart in the worst way
Never should have let you fall in the first place
But you’ve fallen, put your all in
Now you’re so high off love you don’t wanna get down
(Rap)
Most nights she aint sleep
Worried where I might or I might not be
Shesh! for the life for me
Man what a life I lead
(Chorus)
You kept me on this pedestal
No matter how much I let you down
(down x3) I let you down (down x3)
With all my infidelity
You loved me so incredibly
Inside I’ll fall apart
If you ever love someone instead of me
(instead of me )
So you deserve a better man
(instead of me, instead of me)
Clock won’t stop (tick, tock)
Her love is going, going, going ( by the minute)
Going, going, going (she keep giving)
But I know she can’t take it
Still her heart I keep breaking
So Ima let her love go
Cause I don’t deserve her love no more
Sad story
She mad for me
And mad at me
Sad that we
Can’t exude love
Not a true love
Cause it’s all screwed up
(Chorus)
You kept me on this pedestal
No matter how much I let you down
(down x3) I let you down (down x3)
With all my infidelity
You loved me so incredibly
Inside I’ll fall apart
If you ever love someone instead of me
(Rap)
How do you fix a love undone
How you even know if you’re fit to love someone
And when you decide to take that ride
Can you drive from the passengers side
One wheel in the middle
Four hands on it
Two sets of breaks
You decide to slam on it
God woman
Where the love go
Whip crash will you get whiplash
Sit back cause you won’t get sh*t back
But think if you tried to get what you jus had back
She mad at facts
And you can’t be mad at that
(You can’t be mad at that) x2
Whoa x5
(Clock won’t stop – tick, tock) x2
You kept me on this pedestal
No matter how much
I let you down
I let you down
Whoa
Duration : 0:3:57
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Apr
30
Posted under
infidelity
Infidelity by TREY SONGZ – “Anticipation” with Lyrics:
For more Trey news go to http://www.treysongz.com/
(Intro)
Verse 1
You love me like
Words can’t explain
For me to feel the same
Is all you wanna gain
You never claim
That the dollars made me change
But the models givin’ brain
Guess that could f*ck with your brain
Hurt your heart in the worst way
Never should have let you fall in the first place
But you’ve fallen, put your all in
Now you’re so high off love you don’t wanna get down
(Rap)
Most nights she aint sleep
Worried where I might or I might not be
Shesh! for the life for me
Man what a life I lead
(Chorus)
You kept me on this pedestal
No matter how much I let you down
(down x3) I let you down (down x3)
With all my infidelity
You loved me so incredibly
Inside I’ll fall apart
If you ever love someone instead of me
(instead of me )
So you deserve a better man
(instead of me, instead of me)
Clock won’t stop (tick, tock)
Her love is going, going, going ( by the minute)
Going, going, going (she keep giving)
But I know she can’t take it
Still her heart I keep breaking
So Ima let her love go
Cause I don’t deserve her love no more
Sad story
She mad for me
And mad at me
Sad that we
Can’t exude love
Not a true love
Cause it’s all screwed up
(Chorus)
You kept me on this pedestal
No matter how much I let you down
(down x3) I let you down (down x3)
With all my infidelity
You loved me so incredibly
Inside I’ll fall apart
If you ever love someone instead of me
(Rap)
How do you fix a love undone
How you even know if you’re fit to love someone
And when you decide to take that ride
Can you drive from the passengers side
One wheel in the middle
Four hands on it
Two sets of breaks
You decide to slam on it
God woman
Where the love go
Whip crash will you get whiplash
Sit back cause you won’t get sh*t back
But think if you tried to get what you jus had back
She mad at facts
And you can’t be mad at that
(You can’t be mad at that) x2
Whoa x5
(Clock won’t stop - tick, tock) x2
You kept me on this pedestal
No matter how much
I let you down
I let you down
Whoa
Duration : 0:3:57
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Apr
30
Posted under
marriage infidelity
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Marriage after an affair: How to regain trust after infidelity
Affairs don’t have to be fatal to a marriage, although they often are. Esther Perel, couples therapist and author of Mating In Captivity, says an affair can actually lead to a new and wonderful relationship.
Keywords:
marriage affair
marriage after affair
marriage infidelity
trust after infidelity
trust after an affair
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Apr
30
Posted under
marriage infidelity
http://www.howdini.com/howdini-video-6617185.html
Marriage after an affair: How to regain trust after infidelity
Affairs don’t have to be fatal to a marriage, although they often are. Esther Perel, couples therapist and author of Mating In Captivity, says an affair can actually lead to a new and wonderful relationship.
Keywords:
marriage affair
marriage after affair
marriage infidelity
trust after infidelity
trust after an affair
Duration : 0:4:43
idelity/marriage-after-an-affair-how-to-regain-trust-after-infidelity-2#more-27″ class=”more-link”>Read the rest of this entry »
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