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Jun
03
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There is no problem in this world that has no solution. The solution may not come in search of you. You have to work for it. Problems in marriage are also mostly like that, they may fester and kill a marriage, but proper nursing can heal the wound admirably.
Marriages are made in Heaven, it is said. But realities of life come in the way to send it hell bound. In some cases, the partners talk it out and solve their little misunderstandings. But in serious cases, a marriage family counselor may be the only savior. In most cases, they succeed to tie the frayed yarns together.
Marriage is a continuous journey. Nurturing it is a full time job. We respect couples who have lived together for many years, but many of us fail to emulate them. What are the reasons for this? The mostly quoted reasons are infidelity, lack of communication and understanding, distance between the partners, neglect, abuse, broken trust or simply boredom.
Sometimes things simply get out of hand and the partners decide to part. But I would like to advise you that there is professional help available. Professional marriage family counselors can actually stop divorce, even if the couple is in the brink of it. However, for a variety of reasons, it has been found that many people are reluctant to approach them.
I told you that marriage is a long journey together. As in the case of any other field, there are special tools to work on it. Books written by renowned marriage family counselors can be eye openers to people who are in the blind alley. Some counselors run e-mail services into which you can sign in. In this technology driven age, there are CDs and such material on the subject for you to refer.
A successful route towards saving marriage is attending marriage fitness camps, which, in recent years, have saved many marriages from breaking up. These televised camps offer one-on-one phone sessions, question and answer conferences, live seminars and make the couple do homework assignments. People who join in are given audio leaning systems, marriage fitness workbook and journals. The timeframe is set for the couple to work out a solution.
The charges levied for these stop divorce camps are negligible when compared to the blissful marriage experience you may gain from the camp. The homework assignments that the counselor gives the troubled couple help the partners come closer, because they have to complete the assignment together. It may actually be fun too.
The marriage fitness Tele-boot camp is the most convenient way to fight estrangement. The material would be delivered at your doorstep. You can talk to the counselor at a convenient time of yours. It is the best choice if one of the partners is unwilling to get counseling along with the other one.
Roberta Groche
http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/role-of-marriage-family-counseling-in-saving-marriages-694391.html
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Jun
27
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http://www.relationshipanswer.com – Surviving Infidelity is a very serious issue in a lot of relationships. There are some common misconceptions about it. One of them is that it is mostly men who cheat. Not true, it is actually pretty evenly divided. A second misconception is that you cant possibly survive infidelity. That also is not true. Unfortunately most couples just really dont have the skills or the tool set to really understand what to do to repair an infidelity. So in that case its a good idea to find qualified therapist or clergy person to be of assistance because there are some very specific things you must do if you plan on surviving infidelity and rebuilding trust. Trust is the thing that is most damaged in an infidelity. Later on though, if you can work through the issues and really change your relationship for the better many people find that you actually end up with a better, much stronger relationship than you ever had to start with. Because a lot of the early mistakes and expectations that were not quite accurate get corrected and resolved and that is the important thing because remember the outcome you are looking for is to have a happy, safe, healthy, loving marriage.
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Jun
23
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From the Oval Office to Hollywood homes. infidelities make headlines around the world. According to the Myth of Monogamy by Peggy Vaughan, 60 % of husbands and 40 % of wives will have an adulterous affair and 65% of those marriages will end in divorce. Infidelity can destroy even the strongest relationships. The betrayed partner is left with feelings of shame, guilt, and anger. These feelings can be extremely difficult to overcome, however, it is possible to emerge as a stronger couple with the support of family, friends, a therapist, and each other.
There are many reasons why someone has an affair. It can range from poor judgment and a lack of impulse control at the office with a co-worker to a more common search for an emotional connection. Whatever the reason the effect is devastation to the relationship. “Nothing rocks a person’s sense of self, trust, and marriage more than infidelity,” says Michelle Weiner-Davis, author of The Sex-Starved Marriage. “Infidelity leaves people questioning their sanity, as well as everything they believe to be true about their spouse, and about the viability of their marriage. Infidelity is crippling.”
Consider these 5 Reasons Why You Can Survive Infidelity:
1. RAW HONESTY. After all cards are on the table, the couple has an opportunity to create a new pathway to healing and growth. Honesty is about more than just not lying; it is also about not withholding relevant information.
2. EMOTIONAL NEEDS. The needs of each individual can now be truly discovered, and these needs will need to be met on a daily basis to keep the couple walking on the pathway to healing and growth.
3. ACCOUNTABLITY. Accountability is needed on a different level, which creates a sense of security and trust. This also includes letting your spouse know when you are attracted to someone else. This will keep it from being in secret, thus decreasing the opportunity to manifest into an inappropriate relationship.
4. COMMUNICATION. There is no way around it. When a couple decides to fight for their marriage, deep and intense communication emerges over time. The myth of what I dont know wont hurt me robs individuals of being able to act on facts.
5. REBUILT TRUST. According to Glen Westberry with Living in Freedom Everyday (L.I.F.E.) Ministries, rebuilding trust for the offended person is the most difficult part of the healing process because the offended person does not know what has been true and what has been a lie in their marriage. The offender thinks that forgiveness is the key and that it will make the relationship better. However, forgiveness is not for the offender, it is for the offended person. When that person forgives, it brings healing and it opens the door to rebuild trust and starts the journey to healing.
RESOURCES:
Weiner-Davis, M. (2003). The Sex-Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple’s Guide. New York: Simon and Schuster.
Westberry, Glen. Living In Freedom Everyday Ministry (L.I.F.E.) Orlando, Florida.
Vaughan, P. (2003) The Monogamy Myth: A Personal Handbook for Recovering from Affairs, Third Edition. New York: New Market Press.
About the Author: Janie Lacy, M.S. is a Mental Health Counselor who has a passion to reach out and help people grow and mature through difficult life situations. Janie has invested in the lives of others through public speaking, leadership training, educational instruction and small group ministry. Janie received her Masters of Science degree in Counseling Psychology through Palm Beach Atlantic University and her Bachelors of Science degree in Business Administration from the University of Central Florida, specializing in management. Her professional affiliations are with the American Counseling Association, the American Association of Christian Counselors, and the Florida Mental Health Counselors Association.
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Jun
13
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The warning signs of infidelity include several changes in behavior, such as creating strife and disharmony in the house, avoiding eye contact and changing their physical appearance. Find out if a spouse is being unfaithful by opening communication with advice from the author of a marriage counseling book in this free video on relationships.
Expert: Joe Cuenco
Contact: www.married4ever.com
Bio: Joe Cuenco is the author of “Married For 5000 Years,” a research book that analyzes marriage.
Filmmaker: Christopher Rokosz
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Jun
03
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http://www.break-free-from-the-affair.com Marriage help for infidelity is available in this marriage help video by Dr. Huizenga, the infidelity coach, who covers the 8 stages of infidelity recovery.
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May
25
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Everyone wants to have a happy marriage. A happy marriage is one of the finest things life can offer. But after some time different kinds of problems appear in our life. It is true that many people give up on a marriage too soon, and too many marriages end up being weighted down by unresolved difficulties.
What happens if none of those things from the beginning of your relationship are happening any more such as: the little favors nowadays, cook your favorite meal, buy you something special; those little things that showed you she cares about you. Knowing that you may be losing the person you love is hard on anyone. Like most people in your situation you are probably feeling scared and confused, not knowing what to do next. If you feel that your marriage is crisis, don’t show your partner that you’re panicking; try to keep calm and in control your emotions.
Both of you need to remember that no matter how bleak things seem, it is possible for many marriages to get back on course, but both husband and wife should be willing to cooperate. The important thing is to stay calm and to know what to avoid and what to aim for to make relationship work. You can save your marriage even if your partner wants a separation, she asks for divorce, or doesn’t love you anymore. But to stop divorce you need to avoid doing what hurts your relationship, knowing that there’s always a hope to save your marriage.
Jealousy is one of the reasons why most people get divorce, but is not the only one. If she caught you with infidelity and that’s why she wants to get divorce, the hardest thing you will need to do is to rebuild trust in your relationship: always be on time home, do what you say you do and be honest. Also, never lie to your spouse again, communicate clearly all the time, take time to reassure your spouse if she feels insecure, show her affection on regular basis and also be patient with her.
As I said there are many other reasons why people get divorce. This is usually a big mistake so try first to do all the sacrifices that are necessary to save your marriage.
-first and the most important is to identify your problems; take an honest look at the relationship and determine what the problems are; truly express what is disturbing you in, as much details as possible; look for solutions rather that blaming your partner
-if you are guilty for this situation, show her your companion, respect and affection; everyday remind her how much you love her and put meaning from the heart into those words
-start doing things that were usually done when both were still in loved and married
-express your feelings, communicate your feelings honestly and openly as you can
-establish open dialog and begin to compromise and heal; discuss about your feelings and come to an agreement about what you feel the relationship needs
-also you have to learn to listen as well; the things that are brought up should be treated as guides so that the couple will learn how to respect each other’s feelings and points of view; she may talk about what she is feeling regarding the relationship
-you have to work hard to understand and change what is bothering your partner in the relationship; even if she still loves you, she may see some persistent problems in you, and that’s why she may have lost hope for the relationship because of them; you have to understand better your partner’s perception of these problems
-if you are getting stale on your sex life, talk to each other, spend more time alone just the two of you, go on a vacation
-open yourself to the fact that any issue can be understood and interpreted in a variety of ways, otherwise you will continue to stay in a rut
-think about the ways you contribute to the situation
-learn to internalize and understand that your partner is not you; both have to find ways to empathize with the other’s point of view
-appreciate the value of the other’s experience in the way that is different than yours
-don’t allow old negative behavior patterns to swamp the present moment
-learn to forgive and forget; learn to forget anything and accept one another; bringing up the past will not save the marriage; one must learn to forgive the spouse and forget all the mistakes from the past
-seek both for a solution; remember that you are two different people; is not about who is wining here, it’s about respect, intimacy, growth and emergence
-set goals to work as a couple, such as: to communicate without arguing, to attempt to do things as a couple, to find an end to your problems, and also write down your feelings and allow the other to read them
-last but not at least, be patient; your marital problems did not crop up overnight and they will not be healed overnight; discuss all the emotions that you both feel until you are centered and ready to begin anew
So, if you have some problems in your marriage, wait first to see if that marriage can be saved, don’t be hurry to get divorced. Always have to think positive, that there is a hope to save your marriage no matter how many problems appear in your life. And remember that to have lasting satisfaction you need to know how to keep love and good feelings alive.
Gina Gray
http://www.articlesbase.com/relationships-articles/save-your-marriage-before-its-too-late-404100.html
May
07
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There are marriages and there are marriages. You can expect/demand the sun, moon and the stars or almost nothing. It’s a question of personality and perspective. But there is no doubt that the most important thing in a marriage, as in any other relationship, is honesty and real understanding.
In a marriage of the kind we all yearn to have, fidelity is vital. It implies a commitment that’s total and complete. You seek the closest intimacy possible from no one else, so sufficient is the love you receive. What could be more reassuring, more meaningful? But a relationship that intense, comes with a price tag.
And infidelity in a relationship based on such love can be shattering. Nothing can fix that first fine careless rupture. Trust is ruptured forever. It’s a betrayal that leaves you feeling painfully inadequate.
You look back through the prism of time and realise how wonderfully didactic you were in your youth! At 25, black and white could never co-exist. But then, life happens. And you realise that grey exists, and it is often a zone that needs far more maturity and understanding to inhabit than you ever dreamt.
When you’ve been married nearly 27 years, the first lesson you learn is that marriage is a relationship which, like human beings themselves, is constantly morphing and evolving. It’s an equation where the variables change the answers constantly. People sometimes lead married lives together with infidelity between them. Children, autumn love, companionship allow such relationships to survive.
But at the end of the day, it’s really what you want from your marriage and partner. You can survive infidelity (don’t we survive everything?), but that’s the right word, isn’t it? Survive. If you want more, you have to sacrifice something. That my friend, is the nature of the beast.
Here are some of the locations on the internet which offer more helpful tips on the above subject. I hope they may provide you some help.
Dealing with Infidelity – An extra marital affair affects both you and your partner. Both parties have to deal with the consequences. Here’s how you do it ….
Building Healthy Relationships – Relationship expert advice for various relationship issues & problems.
.htm”>Free Marriage Advice & Help – Steps to re-establish that bond in your relationship.
Michael Douglas
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/can-a-marriage-survive-infidelity-81166.html
May
07
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Apr
30
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You wake up one day and your marriage is shattered because your husband just dropped the nuclear, infidelity bomb on you! Turns out he’s been having an affair for months. You knew that your relationship wasn’t exactly a magical one, but you never expected him to cheat on you! And, what complicates the painful emotional crisis even further is the fact that he won’t stop his behavior, nor does he want a divorce! Ironically, he claims that he still loves you! Your emotions are running rampant at this point, and you have been thrust into a painful state of confusion! Your thinking; how could he hurt and betray me like that? Why doesn’t he want a divorce? How could he still love me? Is there still hope for our marriage? What should I do?
Well, the first thing you should do is step back from the situation, remove your self, and take a few deep breaths! The worst thing you can do is allow your emotions to drive your actions because when you do it always ends disastrously! Yes, he cheated on you! But, unless you want to pull the plug on your relationship or get a divorce, you must realize that he’s in the driver’s seat right now! There is a way, though, to remove him from the driver’s seat! But before we get to that lets talk about…….
What you shouldn’t do!
One of the very worst things that you can do is beg your husband to stop cheating on you, and continue to tell him that you love him over and over. Remember, he strayed from the marriage for a reason. And, acting from desperation will only prove that he did the right thing!
I know you want your husband to stop cheating on you, but you can’t force him to change! So, trying to change his behavior by treating him to romantic dinner dates, buying him lavish gifts, giving him flowers, offering romantic gestures, or kowtowing to his beckon call will only worsen the crisis! He strayed from the marriage because his emotional needs have gone unmet, and those needs are directly related to your self-esteem and confidence. Therefore, over rowing the boat will only confirm the fact that you are not very confident!
How to Save your Marriage!
Saving your marriage is really all about change isn’t it! If you could only get your partner to spend more time with you, work less often, be more understanding, more romantic, more intimate, and completely monogamous then you would have the perfect marriage! Wouldn’t you? You’ve probably tried to get him to change his behavior, but the harder you try the worse it seems to get! Doesn’t it? The more you plead and prod the more he continues his cheating behavior! Doesn’t he?
Just because your partner told you that it’s not his fault that he cheated, or that he blames the failing marriage on you, doesn’t mean that he can’t change! As a matter of fact, he already did change!
Think about it! In the beginning of your marriage your partner was the loving, caring, and understanding person that you’ve always wanted, but somewhere along the line your partner changed, didn’t he? Unfortunately, it wasn’t in a way that contributed positively to your relationship! Therefore, he did change, and it’s possible for him to change again!
You see, very few women realize that the secret to beating a cheating husband is not force or manipulation but rather attraction!!!!
But, when faced with the emotional betrayal of marriage infidelity, most women act out of desperation and inadvertently make the situation worse!
The key to stopping your cheating husband in his tracks is to get to the bottom of why he strayed in the first place. Once you uncover the unmet emotional needs that are at the root of his behavior, you can swiftly remove him from the driver’s seat! But, by approaching your marriage infidelity from the correct perspective you will accomplish much more than that. You can end his infidelity without even asking him to do so, and you can get him to fall hopelessly in love with you all over again!
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Best wishes,
David Roppo
The Relationship Rehab Coach
David Roppo
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Apr
30
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Marriage after an affair: How to regain trust after infidelity
Affairs don’t have to be fatal to a marriage, although they often are. Esther Perel, couples therapist and author of Mating In Captivity, says an affair can actually lead to a new and wonderful relationship.
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